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 My name is Cindy - affectionately known as Red Dot Mum.

I was born and raised in Singapore, our little red dot. The orchid in my avatar is the Vanda Miss Joaquim, Singapore’s national flower - and quietly, the same flower that has come to represent my professional work. Some things stay with you from the beginning.

This blog started on New Year’s Eve 2012. I wanted to leave behind a digital record for my children - a place where the life skills I was picking up along the way might live on as a legacy. Raising a family, managing a home, making the most of what we have - without a live-in helper, and almost always without a guide.

The articles here are what remain: recipes, meal planning, home organisation, and the everyday rhythms of a household tended with care and some creativity. They were written for Singapore families, grounded in the real constraints of the time.

Looking back, I can see what I could not name then - that building good systems also enables us to empower functionality. I was doing this instinctively. I share it now with that awareness added.

The rest of my journey continues elsewhere. But this archive stays - for my children, and for anyone just starting out.

Some readers may know me professionally as Cindy Soo, a counsellor, coach and educator. Through my practice, RDM (Red Dot Mum) Consulting, I work with teens and young adults and the parents raising them. The views here are my own and do not reflect any organisation, client, or platform I work with.

Given the right support and understanding — everyone can.

Warmly,

Cindy (Red Dot Mum)

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